I Don’t Need to Borrow Trouble
When I am feeling “sensitive” about things and get all worried about them, do you suppose this is just a manifestation of my anxiety? I was thinking about what I wrote yesterday and how I was perseverating and torturing myself about if the Art Therapist believed me or not. I realized yesterday afternoon that of course he believes me! Why am I questioning it? All I can think is it is anxiety related…..Either from my own insecurity in the therapeutic relationship or from leftover baggage I have from Therapist #1. I do kind of live by a motto of once-burned-twice-shy, so baggage makes lots of sense to me. But…the AT is not Therapist #1, he is the AT. I need to give him more credit. So, why was I not giving him the credit he is due? I guess it’s just me. I’m still working on trusting the AT…I am doing better and better with it, but it is still hard. And I like him and I feel hopeful with him, but I am so used to people letting me down…And to failing…
Today is another Art Therapy day. I don’t have a plan as to what I want to talk about yet. It is also a Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner day, so I am getting a double whammy….And I am really nervous about the PNP appointment…We are going to have to discuss my suicidal ideation and I am not looking forward to that. However, I will get to find out if my Primary Physician has actually called either of them yet.
Heidi the Yogi
So, I have been taking private yoga lessons. It is with a local person who has a studio in her home. She has been traveling quite a bit recently, so even though we started in April, I have only been 3 times (maybe 4?). That works out for me since I am not exactly lush in money right now, so the intermittent schedule is great. She also has a sliding fee scale and that has been super helpful too. Anyway, I have been interested in yoga for a long time but have way too much body shame to actually go to a yoga class where there are <gasp> other people. I almost have too much body shame to do the private lessons as well…but I am trying not to let it be a barrier.
Yesterday was the first day where I actually felt relaxed about being at the yoga studio. I wasn’t at first, since it has been about two months since I was last there, but the teacher is very reassuring and I felt calmer and like I said, I felt some actual relaxation. I like the yoga a lot. I may have a huge body, but I happen to be very flexible and I have some decent strength, so it is nice to move my body during yoga. I am super self-conscious, but yesterday, I even let some of that go too.
I think what is the most challenging part of yoga for me is the teacher talks about knowing and liking one’s body, appreciating one’s body, feeling beautiful and special and letting one’s self be open and receiving, etc. And she has an amazing knack of honing right in on my emotionally sensitive spots….It’s almost spooky how she does it. For instance, several times yesterday she was talking about affirmations and finding nice things to say about one’s self and feeling exquisite. It was only a few days ago that I blogged about how I hate affirmations. She also seems to have picked right up on my trauma history. She hasn’t said anything directly to me, but she has talked about trauma and how peoples’ bodies react to trauma and made trauma-calming comments…..Again it was very unnerving.
I think yoga is a good challenge for me…but she almost had me in tears three different times yesterday by hitting those sensitive spots. I wasn’t prepared for that. If I can’t cry in therapy….I can’t cry in yoga!
Anyway, I was trying to get to a point…I think the yoga helped to center me and clear my head a lot. I think that is what lead to my trusting that the Art Therapist does believe me and that I need to let my worry about it go. <Imagining blowing dandelion fluff off my palm> Gone! No more worry.