I am not so much a “What am I thankful for this Thanksgiving” kind of person…But….What am I thankful for?
Okay…first of all, I am thankful for myself and the fact that I am even alive right now. I did not kill myself this year. I survived the worst points of my eating disorder. My Hilltop dietitian pointed out to me recently that before I went into treatment in March (at the other facility) I was not eating enough to sustain life. She pointed out our bodies are resilient and do anything to stay alive, but that the cost is high. I am thankful that despite hitting some ultra-lows with my depression that I did not kill myself. Yes, I am just plain thankful that I am alive to write this blog post.
I am thankful to dh for his unwavering support, for keeping our household running, for missing me every day but never asking me to come home, for telling me that as long as it takes and whatever I need, we will make it work so that I can get better. And I am thankful for his unconditional love.
I am thankful for ds who has been willing to pick up slack at home and step into a role of much responsibility. I am also thankful for his love and support and flexibility with me being gone. And I am thankful he is doing it all while juggling a job and a full semester. He is an amazing kid…errr…man.
I am thankful for my friends,
- Donna who has kept me in her thoughts and prayers and has kept me in a steady stream of postcards and notes and love.
- SS for taking good care of my special little friends and for supporting and encouraging me.
- A., who was invaluable at keeping me in one piece all spring and summer.
- L., who has been a loving and supportive friend.
I am thankful for my treatment friends who are constantly supporting me, loving me and deeply understanding my pain and how hard it is to heal. And who remind me that I am worth recovery.
And I am thankful for Team Heidi. Really, I cannot thank them enough for their support which has gone above and beyond anything I ever expected. Team Heidi held me up when I had nothing left to keep myself up. Team Heidi kept me safe with persistence and commitment. And Team Heidi gave me the support to pack myself up and travel across the country for treatment.
I am thankful for Hilltop Team Heidi. The support of this team has helped me learn things about myself that I never knew and showed me I have strength I didn’t know I have. Trauma work is a bitch, and I have had multiple teams here that I have trusted enough to do the work and keep focused on my recovery. And even though I am one of many people they treat each year, I feel like they actually care about me.
I am thankful for the first treatment center I went to this year, for re-feeding me and getting me medically stable.
I am thankful for the woman who took me into her home and lets me stay here for very little “rent” thus helping me be able to stay for treatment as long as I need to. I also appreciate her kindness and companionship.
I am thankful for the UU I found and the support of my Pastoral Care person (whose house I am going to for dinner today.) It is so nice to be taken in by strangers and treated like I am an old friend.
I am thankful for the little things.
- This puppy, that makes me absolutely crazy and that give me much joy.
- The little magical bits of nature I find:
Oh! And I am really thankful for finding my way into a yoga studio where I feel safe and cared about and supported with trauma sensitive instructors and financial accommodations.
Truly, my list could go on and on. I have much to be thankful for this year.
Now…If I can get myself out of my anxiety and mood funk, which is still following me like sticky dark shadow, I might be able to make it through today without falling apart. However, I am still really struggling and I am not looking forward to going to programming today (Yes, we have programming on Thanksgiving day) and I am anxious about the dinner I am going to later because I really won’t know anyone there. But I will try, just for today, to cut myself some slack. And if that’s too much, then I will just try 5 minutes of grace at a time. And if that doesn’t work….well…I can only do the best that I can do.